Falling in ‘like’ for life
A recent trip to Dallas gave me a glimpse into what it means to truly fall in like with someone.
Years ago, I realized that falling in love in something we have no control over. I’ve never heard someone say they chose to fall in love with someone. They just fell in love. I’ve often heard that the heart wants what it wants.
Love is something we’re also obligated to dispense. We’re supposed to love our neighbor as we love ourselves. We’re supposed to love our family and all mankind.
What I’ve never heard or read is that you’re obligated to like anyone.
Thus, “like” is a choice.
Like is what I saw in Dallas.
Every relationship is fraught with issues; my relationships with family and friends haven’t always been smooth, and I’m sure there were times when they didn’t like me and I didn’t like them.
On my last day in Dallas, as I told my friend how much I had enjoyed spending time with him and his wife, I told him the high point was seeing the interaction between the two of them.
They seemed to genuinely enjoy the other’s company. The spent time together cooking breakfast in the kitchen he dreamed of having, in their retirement home they designed together. They each made sacrifices to get “their” home, the one they see themselves living in until God calls them home. They complement each other in so many ways.
They talk. They laugh.
My friend’s response to my comment about their interaction was that he really likes his wife and has liked her since elementary school. Of course, they love each other, but the like I found impressive.
They like each other.
Like is a choice, and when I grow up, I want to fall in deep like with someone – for life.